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This week's Ponder:
Fairy Tales
Cinderella Meets Her Prince Charming and it's Love at First Sight Sigh!
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Cinderella Meets Her Prince Charming and it's Love at First Sight Sigh!
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When we are little and sit down for story time most books we are read begin with "Once Upon a Time" and they end with "And they lived happily ever after." I have spent the past thirty years trying to figure out what and or who decided that filling kids heads with lies about fairy tales and happily ever after ever became a great idea. I still haven't come up with any answers. What I do know is that children are read stories at night and little girls are told that they grow up to be princesses - in fact many fathers call their daughter their "Little Princess." Schools no longer teach the basics like cooking and sewing anymore and I certainly don't recall ever taking a class on what to do when domestic abuse sets in. As parents it is our responsibility to teach our children that the reality of the world is that there are no such things as fairy tales and that happily ever after does not really exist - OR does it?
Do you believe in love at first site? Do you know anyone who has a happy marriage after many years of being together? What is the success of that marriage? Or have we become a society that is so used to disposing of things that it is has become easier to dispose of a marriage when the going gets rough and we swap our spouses like we swap cars?
I would love to hear your thoughts on this!
Do you believe in love at first site? Do you know anyone who has a happy marriage after many years of being together? What is the success of that marriage? Or have we become a society that is so used to disposing of things that it is has become easier to dispose of a marriage when the going gets rough and we swap our spouses like we swap cars?
I would love to hear your thoughts on this!
I find it interesting that we are so in love with these modern fairy tales. Indeed, I was excited to be able to experience all my Disney favourites over again with my daughters.
ReplyDeleteWhich is insane of me, since I am a literature student, and thus know that the majority of these fairy tales have been transformed into the "happy ever after" Disney version, from their extremely gruesome original formats.
Makes me wonder: Are we really so incapable of dealing with the darker realities of life?
Soooo true! The Grimms brothers were disgusting in their original tales.... where did Disney come up with the ribbons and curls?
ReplyDeleteAnd Once Upon a Time...? Seriously?
Okay, Brenda...Bill and I have been married for 30+ years, friends for 35 years. Loyalty, commitment, honesty, and respect. It really is that simple.
ReplyDeleteWe have been through the dark, gruesome things...the pain caused by life and the pain caused by others, including my family.And we have experienced some ribbons & curls.
But the key...we did it all together. We took our vows seriously. And truthfully? We started out as friends...and at the end of each day...we still are.
Life is watching you from a dark corner of the room while you laugh and marvel at those fairy tales. But from the corner of your mind, you know there is more than some would make you believe...
ReplyDeleteif i compare two couples, friends of mine, one married, one not, love, respect, acceptance and space seem to be recurring ingredients, not to a perfect relationship, but to an enduring one. nothing is ever perfect, and that's where it differs from those fairy tales. if we were more accepting of that fact, perhaps those relationships would stand a better chance.
of course, abuse is not an acceptable situation and should be denounced when witnessed, and left behind when inflicted. one doesn't have to become a Grimm character. life doesn't have to be so grim.
:)~
HUGZ
I think mc guffy Ann said it best.. to stay happy takes work and needs communication. Marc and I have been together 10 years and married 6. I am truly happy, but due to the amount if time we spent prior, I was sure if our decision to marry. I think sinetimes problems happen when people rush in, or ignore signs that the person isn't right for them
ReplyDeleteAND.... this is why I love this post so very much and the friends I have..... all of you make such valid points. So the reality, if I read between the lines, is that happily ever after exists, as long as the two participants participate in the relationship and go in with eyes wide open.
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